Development of Children
To make sure your Children develop to a healthy and happy adult they need on the one side all your love and support and on the other side the appropriate nutrients including all Vitamins, Minerals, Enzymes, Trace Elements, Proteins, Carbohydrates and Essential Fatty Acids.
The different stages in the development of all children show essentially the same sequences. On the other hand the forming of certain manners and its chronological appearance is very individual.
A deviation from these milestones of average Childlike development on its one does not automatically indicate a brain malfunction. To be sure a deviating development is not a problem you have to carefully observe to recognize premature underlying interferences. Sometimes where appropriate we need also further diagnostic clarification to discover and to be able to initiate therapeutic measures. With premature babies, you relate the development age on the birth appointment expected for a normal birth.
Relationship behaviour/Independency
- Start of eye contact 1 - 3 months
- Social laughing 1 - 3 months
- Shy towards strangers from 6 - 9 months
- Tries to eat independently from 12 months
- Eats and Drinks independently from 18 months
- Takes off items of clothes from 18 months
- Defending possessions from 21 months
- Using own name from 21 months
- Start to dress themselves from 21 months
- Clean during daytime from 24 months
- Talking in I-form from 24 months
Development of the motoric System
- Hands in mouth (Hand-Mouth-Coordination) 0 - 6 months
- Observe own hands (Hand-Eye-Coordination) 0 - 6 months
- Touch own hands (Hand-Hand-Coordination) 2 - 6 months
- Turns around on the stomach 6 – 8 months
- Ambidextrous grasping 4 – 10 months
- Free sitting 6 – 9 months
- One-handed grasping 6 - 9 months
- Scissor Grasp 7 – 11 months
- Sits up 8 – 12 months
- Crawling 8 - 11 months
- Walking along furniture 9 – 12 months
- Tweezers Grasp 9 – 13 months
- Standing free 10 – 14 months
- Walking 11 – 16 months
Development of Playing
- Sticking things in mouth to taste 3 – 15 months
- Manual exploring and handling 3 – 24 months
- Visual exploring from 6 months
- Container - contents – game 9 – 21 months
- Functional playing 9 – 24 months
- Representative game I –>
Object is used functionally (feeding a doll) 12 – 24 months
- Vertical constructing, piling and stacking 15 – 30 months
- Symbol game from 18 months
- Horizontal constructing 21 – 30 months
- Representative game II ->
The doll, led through the child, uses an object from 24 months
- Sequentially game from 27 months
Development of language
- Imitation of Sound and Language 7 – 12 months
- Aimed use of ‘Mum’ and ‘Dad’ 10 – 18 months
- First 3 words (except Mum and Dad) 12 – 18 months
- Two word sentences 19 – 30 months
- Preposition: ‘on’ 14 – 22 months
- Preposition: ‘in’ 15 – 20 months
- Using of the own first name 18 – 36 months
- Preposition: ‘under’ 22 – 32 months
- I-form 24 – 45 months
Eating
- Independently drinking out of a cup 12 – 18 months
- Chewing of solid food 16 - 25 months
- First attempts to eat with a spoon 12 – 18 months
- Independently eating with a spoon 15 – 21 months
Emotional Development of Children
Six emotional stages occur during a child’s life. It is important that parents acknowledge this and understand that babies come into this world needing a place their parents have created for them. With aging children also need their parent’s blessings and to verify their worth and value. This creates a stable environment for a child’s spiritual, mental and emotional needs. If this was not carried out during the following six stages of life, it is not too late for parents to validate these feelings to their children, as child energies are always with us and are a part of us. Communicate these messages with your children and a greater love will be shared.
The six stages of developmental need are:
Newborn (0-9 months old) – The value of you for who you are
(Speak these messages to your child)
- The day you were born God had a smile on his face.
- A special place we have prepared is waiting for you.
- We will always provide for you, we will answer your needs.
- We have been looking forward to your arrival.
Infancy (9-18 months old)
– Support and encourage developmental sensing, exploring and actions
- We will always love you just the way you are.
- We will keep you safe.
- Curiosity encourages learning; we will allow you to be curios, to look, touch and feel things.
- You do not have to worry about us. We are here to care for you and your needs.
Toddler (18 months – 3 years old)
– To be supported in conveying your own thoughts, ideas and feelings
- It is ok for us to have different thoughts, we still love you.
- Your thoughts and feelings are very important to us.
- Feel free to express your feelings and thoughts.
- We love hearing your ideas.
Preschooler (3-6 years) – Identifying your own self
- We will help you find out who you are but will keep you safe by setting limits.
- We will allow you to think for yourself.
- You can find out your own limits and test your own boundaries.
- We like your inquisitiveness and vigour.
School Age (6-12 years)
– Being yourself and fitting in, learning and feeling.
- Its good that you learn to do things in your own manner.
- Try things out before you adopt them and make them your own.
- Be yourself everywhere you go.
- You do not have to please anyone.
Adolescence (13-18 years)
– Creating independence from the family
- Feel free to still feel dependant on us at times.
- Take your time in growing up and becoming an adult.
- Take the time to grow into your woman or manhood.
- By knowing who you are discover and exercise skills for independence.
It is not possible to value, love or validate a child in excess. Be the best parent you can be, fulfil your obligations to be the most loving and caring parent. Speak these validations often to your child.
